Well a few days ago I turned 27. Hard to believe that’s even possible. There are many days I look at my life and think I couldn’t possibly be this old- I have a house, a car, a full time teaching job, and I’m married- wow! But I love my life. When I think about this last year I think about everything that’s changed, how much I’ve grown, and what I’ve learned.
Almost two years ago we started our adventure to start a family and almost a year ago we made our first visit to the fertility doctor. A year ago I don’t I think I would have ever thought I’d be where I am now. That we would do all the testing, a cancelled and extremely long cycle, then three iuis with oral and injectable meds , and ultimately decide to stop treatments and move on to adoption- and I would really be okay with where I am now. I’m not saying it was all easy. There definitely were days where it was hard and I wasn’t sure I wanted to keep doing it, or maybe life just didn’t seem fair. I’d get tired of waiting or my meds had me feeling run down and cranky. But we made it through it and we’ve moved on. I know I’ve said this before but it feels like it’s been more than 3 months since we decided we were headed toward adoption.
One thing I learned in the last year was how strong my marriage is and how lucky I am to have that. I have a husband who put up with my mood swings, gave me my shots, and was there 100%. We did it together and made the decisions together. On days that were hard he was right there to listen or help me figure out what I needed to feel better. I couldn’t have made it through it all without him.
I have also learned that I am really excited about adopting a child. I truly cannot wait for this experience. Just after we decided to move on to adoption Josh accepted a new job which would increase our income to help us save for the adoption and after a year of working there he will get financial assistance with the adoption expenses and paid time off when we bring a child home. Just feels like it was all meant to be.
One of the best things I learned this last year was just how amazing our friends and family really are. Over the last year we gradually shared our adventure with more and more people. The more we shared it the more we felt supported and loved. Whether it was a text or a phone call, a trip to ihop, or someone sharing with me about their own journey with infertility. It all helped. Ultimately it was the support we were already receiving that convinced me to share our adventure with everyone, and I think it was one of the best decisions we made. I love the conversations I have with people about their own journey or sharing with people about infertility or adoption.
Now thinking about 27 and what’s ahead this year, I get excited. Josh has been at his new job for a month now and is learning new things all the time. I’m in my fourth year of teaching and loving it. Then there’s Gus and Charlie, our dogs. I get excited thinking that this is the year we will get to start our adoption process. We will finally get to take the next step in our adventure. I think 27 is going to be another great year.